Friday, 30 November 2012

halo world; welcome to 'ultimatehook!!'

hi! my name is a b**ch but i do not have jokes, meaning that when you give me a shout (visit my blog), i get impressed knowing that i am doing my job. My work is like sex, you interact with my site its a pure definition of a worked out online delivery; okay perhaps i brought that out too soon. But ay! i love what i do & i love you for taking time to go through my site & mostly hope you find it attractive. 'Ultimatehook' is the first word that came to my mind as soon as i got reading news & mags online, its like i was online but was not sure yet i was looking for.. err! not say my  audience is lost, of cause i bring up a wide topic range of popular demand and that is why my site is proclaimed 'Hook', with a twist (serious talk). okay i do lie; you might get lost in here which is only pleasant knowing that it is worth your sight, time & attention, & if i had one in a milli vote of thanks i shout to my fellow Ultimatehookups... Welcome!!

Wednesday, 28 November 2012


Have you heard the myth that says some people can orgasm through sex while others can't? Well, don't believe it. Everyone can learn how to orgasm during sex; it just takes a little practice and a lot of patience.

1. Learn to relax. This is the most important factor you need to master if you want to have enjoyable orgasms. You 
need to understand that there is a vicious cycle that people often fall ...into when trying to reach orgasm during sex. They get uptight because they are not getting closer to orgasm and this makes it more difficult to actually orgasm.
In fact, they are further away from having an orgasm because this causes extra tension and stress which only makes matters worse and less likely for them to orgasm. Learning to relax and stop caring about having an orgasm may sound counter-intuiti­ve, but it's actually vital if you do want to climax.

2. Make foreplay last longer. Both men and women enjoy foreplay, and it ultimately leads to stronger and more powerful orgasms for both sexes. Make sure your partner knows this!
So, how long should foreplay last? Ideally, it should last for at least 20 minutes, but it can last for much longer. By spending up to two hours caressing, kissing, massaging and rubbing your body, you will both be more relaxed and aroused than if foreplay only lasted for three minutes. And being more relaxed and aroused means that reaching orgasm will be far, far easier

3. Turn off the lights and turn on some music. Turning the lights off when you have sex has a powerful effect. If you are self-conscious about your body, you'll find that having sex in the dark takes away a lot of the pressure.
In the dark, your partner can't see your body, he can't make eye contact with you and he can't see what you are doing. This takes a lot of the anxiety out of sex for many people.
Listening to music is great for filling the room with sound that drowns out the sounds you and your partner are making. It can also turn you on and add extra eroticism to your sex session if it's a band or artist that puts you in the mood.

4.. Explore what turns you on. Relaxing and turning the lights off is all very good when it comes to learning how to have an orgasm, but it's a little passive. In order to be more active, find things that turn you on and bring you closer to orgasm. If you want to know how to orgasm every time you sex, you need to get to know your body intimately.
No matter what it is that arouses you and turns you on the most, it's important to find out. When you discover what enables you to orgasm easily, relay the information to your partner so that he can apply what you learned when you're together...

Friday, 23 November 2012

Must Read; Why Oprah Winfrey wants to know Justin Bieber

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Oprah Winfrey says Justin Bieber is a pop phenomenon like the Beatles or Elvis or Michael Jackson, but also radically different because his fandom is boosted by the impact of social media. The talk show host and now network chief is reflecting on the significance of the teen superstar in light of an episode of Oprah's Next Chapter airing Sunday in which she sits down for an in-depth talk with the Biebs.
It might be time that someone actually talks to the lad in something more than soundbites. Too many Justin Bieber quotes come from press conferences in which multiple scribes shout questions at him, to no great purpose. He may actually be the relatively wholesome and intelligent person he appears to project.
Oprah is giving nothing away ahead of Sunday's broadcast, except for a few of her questions. She'll pose doozies like "Do you feel that people are rooting for you or waiting for you to make a mistake?" and "How do you figure out who you are when you're growing up in a fan frenzy." Both vintage Oprah. And she'll push him a bit on his relationship with Selena Gomez.
But she hasn't released more than a word or two of Bieber's answers, so there's no knowing whether there's anything there to be revealed. And that's vintage Oprah, the businesswoman. Her 1993 interview with Michael Jackson went live around the world within 24 hours. And she'd like her 2012 interview with Bieber to do the same, because her OWN network is up there in the subscriber channels and not drawing the audience she dreamed of. For the first time, Discovery Networks International is carrying the show and showing it around the world and she wants to start out that relationship with something that millions of fans cannot pass up.

Get rich now!!

Becoming rich fast is possible if you have the ability to take risks and have patience as nothing can be achieved without hard work. Wealth creation is a process which is understood by some people quite early in their lives while others take a comparatively long time. Many people refer to books to get some valuable tips on becoming rich quickly. Reading books is a good practice, but we should try to achieve the things written in the books practically. One should be aware of the ground realities and accept them without feeling bad about it.

Understand the Scope for Growth Opportunities

Before starting a business, learn about the future prospects of that business and invest your money wisely. Do not always go by what others feel. Have an opinion of your own and implement your views only after a good research. It's a misconception that, only businessmen get rich fast. Even if you are working in a company as an employee, you can make money quickly, if you prove yourself at your workplace. Try to do things accurately and before the deadline, to get your promotions faster. As your designation in the company gets higher, you will become more powerful and rich. Focus more on your performance and you will definitely get the returns for your good work, in the monetary form. Businesses, like the restaurant business, transport business, spare parts manufacturing business, can make you rich quicker than you would have expected, if you have a brilliant business acumen. Any business done with sincerity, honesty and dedication will make you a rich person over the next few years. Your involvement in your work will decide the speed of your success.

Using Talent to Earn Money Quickly

If you have any hidden talents in you, like ability to paint or sing beautifully, playing sports like football, cricket or boxing, write books, then you can become rich in a lesser span. Use your talent to the fullest and market and present your products well, to succeed in your mission. You can earn a lot of money in a short time by becoming a successful sportsman through contracts and endorsement deals, if you can reach the top position. 

Always Remember - nothing is impossible, if your decision is firm and final. Many authors, painters and singers earn mega-bucks once they get on the right track of their careers.

Some More Ways to get Rich Quickly

You can become rich by investing your money in areas like real estate, power generation plants and the stock market. However, by careful study of the past, it is evident that very few people have actually succeeded in achieving their targets. Learning from your past mistakes, is the key to getting rich. Adventure sports like car racing, doing bike stunts, horse racing can fetch you a good amount of money in relatively less time.

Rich and successful people do not do different things, they do things differently. You can become rich by learning to visualize the things happening around you in a right way.

Friday, 16 November 2012

what is love?

What is love?


Love gets you high

Its the reason we tell lies

Makes you cry

Makes you laugh

Fills up but at times makes you feel half

Makes him jump out his Adidas & call her a slut

& when its all over

he gives her a shoulder

The reason she still comes home

One minute you here alone

The next you want to share it

Its like a car to its mechanic

Perhaps we should take every moment as the last

Maybe eyes won't suffer more than the heart


Love keeps you coming back in the new age

Take it from Brother Rick Ross blowing off his shirt on stage

Its like gravity

Baby please hurt me

Love is addictive

BUT peaking it in one language is contradictive

If married folks told us the recipe we'd probably all be citizens

I heard a wine-glass can talk grapes.. listen

So can amateurs pose pure smiles at doctors

its like medicine


Love is the reason 2012 is not the END

but the only the beginning of greater things to come that you and I cant think off

Love is what keeps me updating  Bloggers with a twist.. Love you


nice to know charity exists

RED BANK, N.J. -- In three decades as one of the world's biggest rock stars, Jon Bon Jovi has eaten in some of the world's best restaurants, savoring the best food the planet has to offer.
Yet there's no place he'd rather have dinner than The Soul Kitchen, a "pay-what-you-can" restaurant he and his wife Dorothea established in a former auto body shop near the Red Bank train station in central New Jersey.
The restaurant provides gourmet-quality meals to the hungry while enabling them to volunteer on community projects in return without the stigma of visiting a soup kitchen. Paying customers are encouraged to leave whatever they want in the envelopes on each table, where the menus never list a price.
The restaurant is the latest undertaking by the New Jersey rocker's Jon Bon Jovi Soul Foundation, which has built 260 homes for low-income residents in recent years.
"With the economic downturn, one of the things I noticed was that disposable income was one of the first things that went," Bon Jovi told The Associated Press in an interview Wednesday before the restaurant's grand opening ceremony. "Dining out, the family going out to a restaurant, mom not having to cook, dad not having to clean up - a lot of memories were made around restaurant tables.
"When I learned that one in six people in this country goes to bed hungry, I thought this was the next phase of the Foundation's work," he said.
It started several years ago when Dorothea Bongiovi (she uses the legal spelling of her husband's name) and Jon started helping out at a food pantry at nearby St. Anthony's Roman Catholic Church. They later moved their focus to the Lunch Break program, which feeds 80 to 120 people a day, dubbing it "The Soul Kitchen."
They brought that name with them to a former auto body shop down the street from the Count Basie Theater, where Jon and his self-titled band have played many fundraising shows for local charities.
It took a year and $250,000, but the restaurant now rivals any of its competitors in trendy Red Bank, with entrees like cornmeal crusted catfish with red beans and rice, grilled chicken breast with homemade basil mayo and rice pilaf, and grilled salmon with soul seasonings, sweet potato mash and sauteed greens, many of which were grown in the herb and vegetable garden right outside the restaurant's doors.
Bon Jovi, who has a home in next-door Middletown, is adamant about one thing.
"This is not a soup kitchen," he emphasizes. "You can come here with the dignity of linens and silver, and you're served a healthy, nutritious meal. This is not burgers and fries.
"There's no prices on our menu, so if you want to come and you want to make a difference, leave a $20 in the envelope on the table. If you can't afford to eat, you can bus tables, you can wait tables, you can work in the kitchen as a dishwasher or sous chef," he said. "If you say to me, `I'm not a people person,' I say, `That's not a problem. We'll take you back to Lunch Break to volunteer with those people. If you don't want to volunteer with that, we'll take you to the FoodBank."
After volunteering at one of those places, a person will be given a certificate good for a meal at The Soul Kitchen.
"If you come in and say, `I'm hungry,' we'll feed you," Bon Jovi said. "But we're going to need you to do something. It's very important to what we're trying to achieve."
That includes making people feel part of a larger community that cares about them, while still expecting them to contribute to society at large.
"This is not an entitlement thing," Bon Jovi said. "This is about empowering people because you have to earn that gift certificate."
He and others at the restaurant want those who can afford to dine out to patronize the restaurant as well and pay what they consider market prices, or even a bit more than that, to help sustain The Soul Kitchen as a true community resource.
Bon Jovi said he is currently writing songs for his band's next album, due out in 2013, along with another typically massive Bon Jovi tour. He said many of the songs are inspired by the current economic downturn and the struggles of everyday people to make ends meet without losing hope.
In the meantime, he and his wife plan to stay active in the restaurant, where he estimates he has worked at least once a week in recent months. The Soul Kitchen is open for dinner Thursday through Saturday, and offers Sunday brunch.
How important is rolling up his sleeves and working in the restaurant to him?
"Last Friday, I was at the White House, serving on the Council for Community Solutions, got on a train, changed in the bathroom and got here in time to wash dishes Friday night," he said. "I'm the dishwasher, for real. I can't cook a lick."

Thursday, 15 November 2012

Share your views on 'Condom distribution in schools'

For years there has been a debate regarding whether condoms or birth control should be available in high schools.

Those against such a policy worry this could send a tacit message to teens about the acceptability of sex and lead to more promiscuity.

Those for such programs argue that condoms available in high schools could lead to a reduction in STDs and pregnancies.

What does the research have to say?

While there has been a growth in school health services providing reproductive services, such as pregnancy and HIV tests, very few distribute condoms or other contraceptives because they are not allowed due to restrictions imposed by the school district, the school, or state law.
Since the number of high schools that provide birth control is very low, there are only a few studies that point to the potential impact of such a policy. Even with this qualification, research has consistently reported that the availability of condoms in high schools does not increase sexual activity.
In one study, published in the American Journal of Public Health, condoms were made available in 10Seattle high schools by placing them in baskets and/or having them available from the school clinic. When they compared answers to a survey both before and after the condom availability, they found sexual activity did not increase. However, they did not find the program had any effect on condom use by already sexually-active teens. The authors concluded that students did not increase their use of condoms, they simply obtained condoms from the school instead of from another source.
study in Los Angeles county also used the same before-and-after comparison of the effects of condom availability. They also found no impact on sexual activity. However, unlike the Seattle study, this research found that condom use by boys who were already sexually active seemed to increase.
A slightly different design was based on a study of over 7,000 high school students. The researchers compared New York public high school students, where condoms were available, with a matched sample of students in Chicago. Again, there was no evidence that condom availability increased sexual activity. However, in this case, availability was again associated with an increase in the use of condoms among students that were already having sex.
In summary, condom availability in high schools is a low-cost way of preventing pregnancy and STDs without increasing sexual activity.

Bieber gets busted by cops...again! boys and their toys

Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez split recently and he was pulled over by cops again in Los Angeles. It seems that not only did his relationship tank, his Ferrari vehicle registration expired as well, as police discovered Tuesday during a routine traffic stop.
TMZ was on-hand to break the story on Nov. 13 report. It seems the paparazzi are always nearby when the pop star gets stopped by L.A.'s finest.
Sources say Bieber was pulled over by cops after they observed him making a "dangerous" left turn in his exotic automobile. Then it gets worse: Bieber's registration to his Ferrari was expired.
Justin's recent traffic stop is another in a string of alleged moving violations. But when you're as large as the "Never Say Never" pop star and drive around in Fisker Karmas and Batmobiles' everyone pays attention.What a two-fer, right? How does a celebrity with boatloads of money and a lot of handlers allow his car registration to go belly-up?
Justin and Selena broke up recently after their fairy tale celebrity relationship came to an abrupt halt.
After being spied out and about with Victoria's Secret supermodels, it doesn't seem as if JB is in mourning over his ex-lover.
When will Justin Bieber get pulled over again? Can you handle curves Boy?

Cape Town had hype this weekend, except dying from a billboard ouch!!

This explains pretty much why we love 'em

everything is much well about i

Wednesday, 14 November 2012

7 Ways to Duck Financial Holiday Hangovers

The holidays are upon us, bringing all those feelings and temptations to go overboard with spending. Whether it’s a dedication ...

The holidays are upon us, bringing all those feelings and temptations to go overboard with spending. Whether it’s a dedication to the gift-giving tradition, a sense of obligation, or a feeling that the holidays entitle us to have a little more fun than usual, too many of us seem to turn a blind eye to our budgets. Excessive holiday spending can cause unnecessary financial stress on you for months afterwards. With proper planning, you can have a wonderful, memorable holiday and avoid the financial hangover afterwards. Here are some tips on how to keep your holiday spending in check.

Pool on a holiday outing instead of gift-giving during the holidays.

Many people feel they have to give gifts during the holidays, either because of tradition or because they know their friends and relatives have gotten gifts for them. Instead of exchanging gifts, your family members might want to pool their money and spend it on a holiday outing. This is a great alternative to gifts that is more meaningful, and chances are they will be happy to save gift-buying dough as well.

Plan for gift-buying by cutting your expenses elsewhere as necessary.

Perhaps you’d rather dine out or go to the movies less, or maybe you can forego that new pair of shoes you’ve been wanting for yourself. It doesn’t matter where you make cuts, just that you make them. Keeping your other spending under control while you’re out there doing your shopping can be a challenge, but just keep repeating to yourself the importance of not over-spending. That way when it comes time to actually pass out those presents you’ve purchased, you can do it without grimacing as you think about the damage they did to your bank account.

Set a budget and keep tabs on what you are spending.

While you’re doing your holiday shopping, keep close tabs on your checkbook register, credit card statements, and all of your receipts. It’s easy to get into a spending rhythm when shopping for yourself or others, and that’s why you need to write down every purchase you make and make sure you don’t go over your budget. Most people don’t budget their shopping and don’t realize that by the time they buy all the presents, wrapping paper, cards, decorations, etc., it’s already added up to a ridiculous amount. Having a budget that you know you must stick to will help keep your impulse spending from getting out of hand and will help you hone in on the most reasonably priced holiday items.

Plan what you are going to buy, and skip the extras.

Along with your budget, you’re going to want to take an exact list of what you want to buy for your gift recipients. Don’t go shopping for someone’s gift until you know exactly what you are going to buy. It’s very easy to go in with no plan, see something you like, and get it simply because you have no idea what else to get for a hard-to-buy-for relative despite the gift’s significant price tag. A list will also help you squelch the desire to buy knickknacks that you think will make nice small additions to the gifts you’ve purchased. Very rarely are things like this necessary, and if you’ve got your list in hand, it will be easier for you to pass them by without hesitation.

Watch out for deals that seem too good to be true.

Retailers run all sorts of specials to induce consumers to buy now. For example, furniture stores frequently offer that if you “buy now, you don’t have to pay a thing for a year,” and you might even get free delivery. This sort of “push” marketing can make it harder for you to say no. Retailers find that buyers are less likely to negotiate the price if they are getting a short-term financing break. Read the fine print on any deal you are considering taking before you go to the store to make the purchase. It can be even harder to say no once you get to the store, so you’ll want to know what you are in for before you get there.

Leave the plastic at home.

Charging items to a credit cards and deciding to pay it off gradually after the holidays is a bad idea and only creates unnecessary financial stress for you after the holidays. Use your budget to figure out how you can purchase the gifts you want to purchase without putting them on your credit card. If you are so cash-strapped that you think it will be difficult to avoid charging gifts, then you may want to sit down with other friends and family and propose a limit on how much gifts can cost this year -- or propose no adult gift exchanges at all. Far from being disappointed, it’s likely they’ll view this reprieve from gift-buying as a gift in its own right.

Remember that meaningful gifts don’t necessarily have a big price tag.

Sure, it might be nice to give a brand new TV, but there are other things out there that will be even more meaningful. If you are looking to give a gift that truly means something and that will keep its value for years to come, you are better off looking for nonmaterial gifts to give than for something your gift recipients could get themselves at the local store.

Money can easily become the focus of the holidays when it should be the last thing you are thinking about. If you prepare properly, you can achieve a happy balance of spending and saving during the holiday season.

How to ask for what you want in the Bedroom

There is a right way and there is a wrong way to go about asking for more active, adventurous intimacy ...

There is a right way and there is a wrong way to go about asking for more active, adventurous intimacy with your partner. There is also a critical period in time near the beginning of an intimate relationship where you and your partner "train" each other to be the type of lovers that work best for the both of you. But even if you have passed the 'critical period,' a healthy relationship will allow you to communicate your wants to your partner. Asking for what you want in the bedroom ultimately comes down to good communication.

But before you can even begin to express your wants to your partner you need to be completely comfortable with yourself; after all, sexuality starts from within. Once you are comfortable enough with yourself, there are 4 simple things you could do to help fulfill your fantasies in the bedroom.

1. Be truthful.

Being truthful in your wants is the best policy. However, there is a thing as tactful truth. Explaining what you would like in a way that makes your partner feel loved and important is always a good idea. This means that you do not criticize your partner for not doing exactly what you want her to do. It is a known fact that egos are sensitive when it comes to sex so keep that in mind. After all, you do not want your partner to shut down.

2. Frame it as a Fantasy.

If your partner is too sensitive for you to be completely forward about your wants, try framing what you want as a fantasy. This is a surefire way to reduce pressure and ease her into active listening. Most people want to please the person they love. There are many ways you could present your fantasy, such as: "I was thinking of you today doing (insert your fantasy here). I was so turned on that I started to sweat. I can't stop thinking about you..." This is a more subtle way to get the adventurous, active intimacy you crave.

3. Lead by example.

Showing someone what you like is never a bad thing. If you are a bit shy and the more direct communicative routes do not work for you, lead her into your "den of desire" by guiding her into what you want her to do. For example, if you would like her to change positions more often help her move into one position from another-slowly and with eye contact so you remain connected.

4. Make a game out of it.

If you are really having a hard time being direct about it, you could try making a game out of it. There are many games that can be purchased in novelty shops but you can also create your own. You could try a naked scavenger hunt. Plant several cards around the house with things you both desire, and when either of you find a card you have to do what the card says to your partner. This works like a charm for a couple reasons, first, it is a sure fire way to get active and adventurous and second, it is reciprocal and fair as you both have cards to find and follow. You might even get bonus points for being so creative and coming up with a game!

A proper guide, of course, would not be complete without illustrating common mistakes that absolutely should NOT be done when asking. The following should simply never be done but, unfortunately, they often are.

1. Giving orders.

You should never bark orders. You are not a drill sergeant so don't act like one. Partners generally do not like to take orders with regard to sex and yelling at anyone is rude and disrespectful.

2. Turning yourself off emotionally.

Never turn yourself 'off' emotionally from your partner. Lovemaking involves connecting with your partner emotionally and if you shut down and disconnect from your partner, you will never get what you want in bedroom. Women are, generally, emotional creatures and connecting is the most important aspect.

3. Criticizing.

Criticizing never works; it makes people resentful and feel disconnected. Doing so will not only make her feel resentful of your criticism, but will also make her feel totally disconnected from you -- this will work against you on every level.

4. Making comparisons.

Comparing her to other women, or your ex-girlfriend, is not the direction you want to go either. This will make a woman feel like she isn't good enough and she will surely shut down.

While there is nothing wrong with wanting or asking your partner to fulfill a fantasy, it doesn't necessarily mean you are going to get all that you ask for ; your partner simply may not be interested in or comfortable with some of your ideas. Asking for what you want from your partner is all about being comfortable, understanding and respectful. Your partner should be able to comfortably say 'no' just as you should be comfortably able to ask.

Secrets to a Long-Distance Relationship

Relationships can be difficult and adding the considerable strain of long distance can make it considerably harder...
Relationships can be difficult and adding the considerable strain of long distance can make it considerably harder. But if two people love each other enough, then distance shouldn't matter, right? Yet despite all the ways technology can help us stay in touch, long distance relationships frequently fail to work out. We sat down with leading relationship experts to find out the secrets to maintaining long distance love and why it so often fails.

Solving Communication

According to clinical psychologist, Dr. Rob Dobrenski, the largest barrier of long-distance relationships is lack of face-to-face communication. Couples invariably need not just emotional and physical intimacy, but also the ability to resolve conflicts. This is significantly easier when you can see your partner's facial expressions and non-verbal communication. Phone, text, email, Skype, Morse code, Instant Messaging, Facebook updates and carrier pigeons all still require a lot of guesswork to really gauge what's going on with your partner. This is especially true if couples aren't already the greatest at directly and confidently stating their feelings. Video chatting is a better option than a traditional phone call, as it allows you to read some of your partner's non-verbal communication. Aside from just talking to each other regularly; use technology to do other things together, like play games online - this is a creative and fun exercise that can promote bonding. "Loneliness will happen but it is important that you acknowledge and attempt to alleviate those feelings. Phone sex works wonders!"


Dr. Barton Goldsmith PhD, says "one of the things that keep a relationship together is real chemistry. Touching keeps the brain chemicals, like Oxytocin (also known as the cuddle hormone) and Serotonin (as well as several others that make us happy and feel connected) flowing through our brains and bodies. When you don't get to connect, it's harder to feel the love because you're not able to produce enough these happiness chemicals to make you feel good and most people start to look for ways to get their 'brain-chemical fix' from those who are physically available." This is why it is essential to keep the physical chemistry just as alive as the emotional chemistry. Plan to see one another as often as possible. That may mean costly travelling every now and again so you can tend to your long-distance relationship. It's not easy and both partners need to commit equally but in the end you might be grateful that you did.

Increasing Trust

Unfortunately, over time, many long-distance relationships experience a degradation of trust and confidence. As you and your partner develop increasingly independent tendencies, your roles in each other's lives will change. New friends and colleagues will be entering both your lives and this can lead to partners quickly becoming jealous. Jealousy can lead to fights, resentment and eventually the demise of your relationship. It is important to prepare for these changes early on and commit yourself to becoming as trusting and as trustworthy as possible. The increased independence can be a good thing, if you let it, enabling you to continue growing as individuals while still remaining a couple. Eventually, the goal is for one or both of you to relocate to be together and, if you have trust in each other, you can get there.

Keeping a Plan

Maintaining a healthy long-distance relationship is all about establishing and sticking to regular achievable goals that you have mutually agreed upon so you both feel like you are working towards something. Never make promises or agree to goals you can't keep. Your word is your bond. A healthy plan and set of goals should include: a daily schedule for communication, a mandatory minimum on Snail mail and small gifts per month, frequency of virtual dates, a schedule for somewhat regular visits and, most importantly, deciding on your monogamy. Remember, things won't always go according to the plan you've set so it is important to anticipate changes and deal with them together as they come up. While, absence may make the heart grow fonder, don't let your relationship linger in this state for years - have an end date in mind in case neither of you can relocate back to the other within a reasonable timeframe.


Joling, In the end we only regret chances we didnt take.The relationships we were scared to have and the decisions we waited to long to make there comes a time in your life when you realise who matters, who doesnt, who never did and who always will. After a while you learn the difference between holding a hand and falling in love. You begin to learn that kisses don't always mean something. Promises can be broken just as quickly as they are made and goodbyes really are forever and One spelling mistake can destroy your life.

A HUSBAND sent a message to his wife: i"m having a wonderful time,wish you were her."

Building self-confidence

This tutorial gives you advice on how to deal with the early stages of redundancy and suggests where to focus your efforts.

Maintaining confidence whilst job seeking is important as it will make a difference to your approach and to how you appear to potential employers, so, if your confidence has been knocked you need to work on restoring it.

Self-confident people inspire confidence in others: their audience, their peers, their bosses, their customers, and their friends. And gaining the confidence of others is one of the key ways in which a self-confident person finds success.

The good news is that self-confidence really can be learned and built on, so long as you have the focus and determination to see things through. The bad news is that there’s no quick fix, or 5-minute solution.
There are a number of ways in which you can help boost your own confidence. Here is a trusted methodology:

*Look at what you’ve already achieved. Document the best points. Perhaps you came top of an exam, were an important part of a successful team, produced the best sales figures in a period or made a big impact on somebody else.
*Think about your strengths. Put yourself in your friend’s shoes and write down what you think they would say are your strengths and weaknesses. When your list is written, think about what this means but most importantly, understand how you can use your strengths in a particular job or career.
*Think about what you value and what you want to achieve. Set yourself a goal and work out the first small step towards achieving it. This may sound unimportant but achieving tasks, no matter what size, is an important step to building confidence and feeling as though you are on a journey.
*Focus on the basics. Don’t try to be clever or to be perfect – just practice doing simple things well.
*Build your knowledge of the area you are interested in and set several small goals and stick to them. Get used to celebrating achievements!
*Look for a role model. What makes that person confident? Is it the way they dress? The way they speak? Take a while to consider how they act and then copy the appropriate behaviours.
*Think about why your friends like you. If you are stuck, ask your friends or a relative to use three positive words to describe you.

Take success into your own hands(Must read)

1. Belief in Oneself To believe in yourself is to accept as true that you can do anything you want, and the way you want it to be done. If you believe that can do what is required to get rich, you will. On the other hand, if you doubt your abilities a little, you will unlikely become wealthy. “I can do all through Christ who strengthens me.”, said St. Paul. 2. Daring The rich have the courage to try new things. If you want to make it to the pot of gold you should dare to take up new challenges. 3. Acting on intuition Intuition is a universal secret responsible for making the rich richer. Many entrepreneurs and money magnates natured and developed this quality to achieve incredible success and wealth. If you have a feeling that something will be right and profitable take your chance. But, if you feel otherwise about something that seems good always respect your intuition. It could be right. 4. Persistence If you persist long enough you will win. Persistence is going forward on doing what you must do to get what you want even if you’re faced with challenges. This is the quality that has brought solutions to difficult problems of those who made it to the top. If you begin to develop it you’ll begin seeing a way around your problems. 5. Determination If your mind is made up to stay on the course until you get what you want you are sure to make it. Being determined is to stay unshakably on your purpose of getting what you deserve, which is freedom and fortunes. 6. Caring People who care about others are rewarded with wealth and long life. The rich proved this by creating the things that people need. 7. Responsible The rich people know that they are accountable for what they allow into their lives. They also know that with great wealth comes a huge responsibility. You are responsible for what happens in your life. Your parents’ duties on you end when you are eighteen. Be a responsible human being. No one ought to pass their responsibilities onto others for sheer laziness and just to “kill some time”. Whether you succeed or fail, you create the results you get in life.

Ways to Gain Financial Literacy

Financial know-how does not come naturally to everyone. Teenagers especially, are quite grim about how to manage finances really well. Both men and women are equally bad at managing finances and there is no easy way for them to learn it when asked about it in a poll. Here are 5 ways to easily gain financial literacy: 1. Differentiate Between Your Needs and Wants A lot of people are involved in impulsive purchasing which is why they spend too much money. Such people would do great if they were able to differentiate between their needs and wants. Before you go out shopping, prepare a list of items that you actually need to avoid falling to the temptation of buying everything you come across in supermarkets. 2. Your Means Are Scarce People need to realize that there's a limit to every other resource they can access. Many think that purchasing through credit cards will help them get everything they want and they can pay for it later. People forget that firstly their credit purchases are limited to a certain extent. And secondly, they will have to pay it back in time or the bank will charge interest, which means paying back even more money. 3. Everything Has Its Own Opportunity Cost It is absolutely true that everything has an opportunity cost. For example, we have to give up on something to get something else. If you decide to enrol for a course, you must give up the salary you have earned. 4. Do Not Waste Time and Money on Sunk Costs Sunk costs are expenses already incurred and cannot be recouped further favourably. Often people believe that investing money, effort or time after sunk costs will recover the disappeared value after some time which is absolutely wrong. If you have lost your money in shares, sell them and recover the money instead of waiting for the market to strike back. 5. Benefit from the Time Value of Money We all have heard of "a bird in the hand is better than two in the bush". This advice means that if you have been able to save considerable sums of money, it would be useless to stash it in your bank account since time value of money would not give you appreciated benefits. Instead, invest that money into a profitable investment vehicle. It is better to go for something that has a stable past record. Later, you can recoup your money and invest a larger amount into useful expenditures such as a private business, your children's college fees, or paying off medical bills or home mortgage

Monday, 12 November 2012

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